Fani

A look into my life. The feelings I choose to share with the world to prove that I was here. That I am real. That I am just me..

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After a long time..yet again.

Well here I am again logging in after an incredibly long time. Today is June 26th,2011 and I’m just here in my room late at night chilling with my boyfriend’s sister and just thinking. I love how fast time flies but even more than that I love how fast we grow and how we never even realize it. I feel as though I’m a different person every few months. I guess I’m starting to realize now what all those grown ups meant by telling me “Experience is the greatest teacher.” when I was little. I am just so happy lately. I’ve noticed that now I’m not necessarily always focused on the negative but I’m enjoying all the positive things about my life.

I’ve gotten myself back into the gym and I’ve made a promise to myself to keep myself healthy no matter what the cost.

I’m getting farther and farther into my education and I find myself looking for the easy way out or just something to advance myself even further. What happened to the wonderful student I used to be? What happened to that little girl in the 7th grade who was so sure that she wanted to become a registered nurse? Being different is weird and I miss a lot of my old qualities.

There’s a lot to think about right there.

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An Emergency Blog.

I am feeling terrible right now. I am so self conscious at this very moment. I feel fat, ugly, disgusting and most of all unworthy. I hate myself when I think like this because it’s a waste of time and I’m always so positive but gosh I swear I am having one of those moments where I don’t even wanna look at myself in the mirror just because I feel so ugly. I’m also feeling kinda jealous or upset because of feelings of inadequacy with my boyfriend. I hadn’t talked to him all day long. And the first I hear of him is just to say that he’s at a party with his friends when I thought he was at work. Idk if I’m just freaking out but I usually tell him everything I’m doing and I expect the same from him. We’ve had this argument before. I hate it when I feel like this. It’s not really that I don’t trust him, its just that I don’t trust those friends of his. They seem like the typical guys who only care about cars, driving fast, drinking and getting laid. I also feel like guys are like a disease. And I don’t want Jose to get infected with it.

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Life…

In a way, life kinda sux. Have you ever really thought about it?? You go all through your life going through all these changes, all these moments and memories that eventually fade away with you in your grave into nothingness. I think that’s just sad and depressing. In a way, it makes it seem meaningless or worthless. But on the other hand, life gives you many opportunities and choices. It gives you freedom and the power to do … well… anything :)

My life right now is at a standstill. I know I’m nowhere near ready to move out of my house. I don’t have a job stable enough to sustain myself and I also don’t have any place or anyone to help me while I transition into the new part of my life as a mature responsible adult. Idk I don’t really have much of a need to move out yet because lately I’ve been out of the house almost 24/7. I’ve been working way more hours and I’ve been going out on the weekends which means I’m not home! Which in turn says that I don’t have to deal with my parents!!! Unfortunately however, it  also means that I still can’t go clubbing because my effing parents don’t want to let me out. (fucking assholes) It’s really stupid that at 18 years old, at the age where I should actually be able to make my own decisions, I still have to ask them for something that should be a normal part of my life at this age. Most of my friends right now are tired of clubbing because they’ve done it so often, while I on the other hand haven’t even started. I feel so left out. This is the one thing I’ve been looking forward to since I was 16 and now I can’t even do it. I feel that this is really unfair. My family sucks ass.

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Change

You know I’m really surprised. Time is constantly causing everything to change and everytime I take some time to review or recap, I shock myself more and more with the changes and process I have made. Last time wrote here was about 8 months ago and sooo many things have changed. 

For example, I’m officially a woman. I’m completely happy with Jose (although we have had our issues) and I’m getting more and more determined to be a better person. I just love my life and everyone in it. I feel like a completely different person than I was back in October. Normile is no longer an issue in my life and I find that to be a huge improvement because I remember how upset I was. Idk what to say. I feel different but I know there’s still so much more change I have to go through and I’m looking forward to it

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Jose <3

So its been a while since I’ve written in here and I’ve gotta say A LOT of things have changed in my life. I’m at the end of my first real semester of college, I’m getting better at managing my time, and I’m in yet another relationship. My new boyfriend is Jose Amado Rios Mendez. I gotta say things with Jose happened very quickly but its been great! He and I have been through a lot in just about 6 months :)

It all started on Prom Night. I met him through my best friend, Cinthia. I was sleeping over at her house and she wanted to go to Denny’s with Jose and his date Giselle (Who is jaw droppingly GORGEOUS!) so me & Jose Borrero our other bestie tagged along. Immediately, I was attracted to him. Cinthia was too and I would never dream of getting in the way of her and any guy so I shut myself down. I stopped myself then and there at attraction. Those 2 looked so cute together. I love Cinthia and I had a boyfriend so I couldn’t even think about letting anyone get in the way of that. Anyways, over the next few months after prom he and Cinthia got very very close and I was more than happy to leave them alone. I was with my man and pretty happy so I wasn’t worried about her at all. So after those few months, Cinthia’s feelings grew and his seemed to too. I was happy for them. Honestly, I was! :) So then he gets me a job at Vans. I was soo excited! Then after my first week, I get a phone call from Cinthia crying telling me how horrible she felt..that he kissed her and then left her heartbroken. I was upset with him. He hurt my best friend. So I ran into him at work and I started talking to him about that. I wanted to make sure that I knew both sides of the story. And after that I saw that they both had reasonable reasons for feeling the way they felt. I wasn’t mad at either one of them but I went and quit Vans so I stopped talking to him. Then his brother messages me on Myspace out of nowhere. He tells me he’s back in Orlando & he wants to see me. So he calls me & we make plans to meet up at Cinthia’s house. Then I get another message from him on Myspace saying “My brother wants to know when you’re gonna break up with your boyfriend.” Cinthia immediately gets upset and calls me asking me why Jose called her (Joel was using his phone) and when I explained she was very happy to see Joel but very angry about having Jose there too. The day we all met up at Cinthia’s we all were in a good mood having a great time. Then during the meeting I mentioned that I’m going to Wet & Wild and he kinda invited himself but in the end I was so glad that he went. That was the best day I’d ever had with any guy friend outside of school. I had a lot of fun and he really did make my day better. Well from then on, he and I started talking on the phone a lot. I really needed someone to talk to about the whole Normile situation and he was there for me hands down giving me all kinds of advice and basically telling me that it’s not the end of the world and that someone better was gonna come along. I really needed that but then I asked him to be honest with me because I suspected that he kinda liked me or was attracted to me in some way and to my surprise he told me EVERYTHING. He explained how he felt about me, how he wanted to get to know me, how stupid Nemo was for ever letting me go and a lot more. At that moment, I really didn’t know what to say because I was still heartbroken plus I could never have anything with him because of the history he had with Cinthia. But honestly it got to the point where I liked him too but I just wasn’t really aware of it yet. We went to the movies a few times and we hung out and we just had a really great time! I mean he was so funny and cute and charming! I loved it :) He would always have me laughing and that was exactly what I needed at the moment. But eventually things died down. I started school and I didn’t talk to him in about a month. Until one night, he called me. I wasn’t expecting it and I never told anyone this before but when I saw his name on the caller ID, I was smiling like a maniac. He told me that he had been talking to a new girl and at first I was irritated. It bugged me but after a little while more… I didn’t realize I was REALLY REALLY jealous until the time he & I went to go see “Law Abiding Citizen”. I kept mentioning her all the time just to hear him say “She’s not my girlfriend!” That made me soo happy. But before we went out, he called me to tell me he was moving to Puerto Rico. That’s when everything started. Cinthia called me to tell me that she was dating AJ and immediately I thought of him. I sent him texts and I tried calling him to ask him to give me a chance. Later that night he called and I brought up the subject. To my surprise he said it was ok. But we weren’t boyfriend and girlfriend. We were just together unofficially. Then the week before he left, we spent almost every day together. We were in his car when he said something and referred to me as his girlfriend. I asked him so are we really dating now? He just thought we were. I said “Well you never really asked me” and he did. Ever since then… He’s been my baby!!

That’s my Baby!!! =D

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Here We Go Again…

I can say I’ve been getting better since the breakup. Time really is working for me. But now another issue popped up. On Monday, he told me he broke up with his girlfriend Linda. On Thursday, Steve told me that it was because she wasn’t texting him or treating him like a real boyfriend. I was feeling pity for him to say the least. Anyways, after talking to Steve (as always) I’m really considering things differently. Now I wonder, did I really overreact on the day of the fight? Should I really have said all those words and broken up with him? Part of me knows it was for the best but I’m really wondering, was it worth it? I miss him so much. Idk why. I liked the way we were. We broke up over a bunch of little things that really could’ve been fixed if we would’ve just talked about it. I’m kinda ticked off at him but I know that I can’t say that I don’t still love him. I knew we had many problems but I loved him enough to work on all of them. I’m also upset at the fact that he was able to move on so quickly and date someone else. I couldn’t imagine kissing him after knowing that some other girl had him. I don’t like this situation. I also can’t really be so upset about him kissing his girlfriend when I messed around with his best friend so often. I don’t feel guilty. I’m just so confused. In reality, things couldn’t be the same if we decided to go back out. He and I would argue constantly, he and I would say things we don’t mean and we’d have to get used to the way we both have changed. But I think I’d be up for it. I think it’d make me a better person and if indeed it doesn’t work out, I can move on knowing that we gave it another shot. It just sux cuz every time I get hit on or looked at, I wish he was the one doing it.  I want him to be the one I kiss, the one who touches me, the one who makes me his forever. What can I say? I just miss him soo much! :( I feel so pathetic.. Here I am again missing him, crying over him, and wishing things were different, while he’s not even thinking about me. I want to accept that it’s over and not even consider the other possibilities. I hate this… I want him but I know its not possible. I just have to grin and bear it. Normile and I are over and will never ever be together again. He really was my first love. Everyone says that you will never get over that and I’m really starting to believe them…

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This really sux.

It’s officially been 7 weeks and 5 days since Normile & I broke up and I’m STILL stuck on him. I hate this! I want nothing more than to be completely over him. I just want to be done with all the stupid emotions I’m going through. I want to stop thinking about him every day. I want to stop missing him so much. I just want to really be over and done with everything. I am trying so effing hard to hurry myself and to push myself to get over it. It’s not working that’s for sure. It really hurts to know that he’s over there talking to his precious Linda and I’m over here just struggling. It’s very upsetting. I’m being extremely impatient but I can’t help it. Even if I don’t get another guy, I just want to stop thinking about him so much. I HATE THIS! I already tried messing with another guy but that didn’t help. He pleased me but because my emotions weren’t involved I couldn’t enjoy it completely. I’ve never had it this bad. It feels like I’m going crazy. Anyone reading this is probably saying to themselves “My goodness stop bitching & just get over the fucking bastard” I want that so badly but the more I try the more frustrated I get with myself. I just need time but I don’t wanna go through this even a second more. It’s obvious that he meant more to me than I did to him. Like my friend Jose said “What happened to the love he said he had for you?” I shouldn’t have been so stupid believe that he could even mean it. I bet he’s said that to all of his girlfriends. Man! Guys are such fucking jerks! I know it’s gonna take me a very long time to bounce back. I have so much to do with myself. I have so many goals for myself and I wont let him get in the way of that.

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Things change..

At every moment of your life, something changes. Its normal. I’ve noticed that since my graduation I have grown tremendously. I now have a car, a steady job, I’m in college, I’m single, I’m much more independent, I’m a bit more mature (Well, I like to think that I am lol), I’ve met new people, had new experiences, etc.

Gosh I can’t believe how much things change within 3 months. I can only imagine how much Ill change by the end of the year! I mean I’m gonna turn 18 and I’m definitely gonna have more exciting, new experiences… I am so excited for the future. I’m so happy with the way I see my life changing. I have such high hopes for myself. I like change. I just hope that those people close to me don’t leave my side. Like Cinthia Diaz, Steve Oliver, Jose Borrero, Amanda Gracey, Victor Manzano, Dennis James, David Molina, Christian Flores, Michael Rivera, Amanda Modeste, Carla Pizzaro, Enereida Ramos, Paula Saintilus, Ricarla Julius, Rusharma Siceron, etc…